A bit of sad news

Hey guys,
this afternoon i found out that last night my aunty, who wasn't my aunty, but a really, really close family friend, passed away. For the next few days i'm gonna be attending to funeral matters and whatnot, so i wont be able to get on, sorry if i've inconvenienced anyone.
Also, i'm feeling pretty shit, because the last time i had an opportunity to see her i chose not to, even though i knew she wasn't well, and now i feel like a complete ass, but i did get to have last christmas with her, which was really good, but liek i said, i'm feeling really sad over this, so if you could throw some kind words my way, i'd really appreciate it.
And i feel like complete ass/hypocrit/selfish bastard for asking that, but like i said, it's left me feeling really sad.

Anyway, wont be on much over the next few days, so sorry to anyone i'm in topics with.

Jess

((And sorry for being so selfish by laying my problems down for all of you, i know that's not the right tihng to do, but yeah

Oh my gosh 0.0 im sooooooooo sorry Jess, the same thing happened to me when my grandmother died, i was suppose to go to her house but i decided to go to a church thing instead and when i got home i found out she had died i feel horrible about it but im going to pray for you jess that you get through this we will all miss you pal come back when your ready ok?

Ah Jess, don't feel to bad about it all. Just think, would your aunt/friend want you to feel that bad? But hope things go alright. My best wishes!

Oh my gosh Jess, I'm so sorry! I will keep you and your family in my prayers and I wish you the best of luck!
Love,
Soph

I'm so sorry to hear that. Really.

But just think of it this way, she'll be watching over you now/reincarnated to a higher life form/etc. Whatever you wish to believe. If you believe something, it makes it true in your reality. Unless it's stated fact. However, the afterlife is up to our interpretation.

In short, I hope you're okay, and I'm sure that your friend/auntie is in a better place now.

Hey Jess. I know you're feeling pretty bad right now, but let me speak from personal experience and say this: it gets better. Don't let the guilt you are feeling overwhelm the love you had for your auntie. What you should be feeling now is an appreciation for what a wonderful part of your life she was, and how grateful you are that you shared the time you did. If you are feeling guilty, you won't experience those wonderful feelings to their full extent, and that would be a shame.

If you need anything, I'm here for you. You were more than patient with me a few months ago when my personal life took a hit, and I would be more than happy to return the favor. My thoughts are with you.

I am so sorry to hear that Jess. You have my condolences. (is that how it's spelt?) Anyway, remember, their body may be dead but their soul hasn't died. Your aunt/friend will be watching you.

Hey, mate. That sucks, i'm so sorry to hear about your aunty. I know your must be feeling really bad at the moment but it'll be okay, i just want to let you know i'm here for you mate.

Hey everyone, thanks for all the well wishes! Reading them made me know that there are a lot of nice people in the world.
Got back from her funeral last night, it was a lovely service, and the church was packed, it was a testimony to how good a person she was, that so many people gathered to celebrate her life.

And also, i'm SOOOOOO sorry for posting this here, it really really wasn't my place to force my worries on you, and as some of you may know, often i discourage this sort of thing, but when i posted this i'd just had a really bad few hours with the news, thinking about it too much, i s'pose.

Anyway, i agree that it's just another adventure for her, i'm not the most religious fellow here, but i'm sure that she's way up there, bossing people around, and keeping an eye or two out on everything down here.

So, thanks so much for all the well wishes, just reading them made me tear up again (But in a happy way) out of pride for the site, you guys're all A+++++++++++++++++ and thanks so much again!

After all, to the well-organized mind, death is but the next great adventure.
Albus Dumbledore.

I think she's in a better place, Jess. I'm not religious by any stretch of the imagination -- half the time I find it all illogical but I won't go into that. I do however believe that no one just disappears. In the physical sense perhaps they do but people are preserved in the memory of others. Don't remember the bad times, the regrets and the mistakes. Focus on what's really important: how much you loved her and how much she loved you. Because that way she never really leaves -- she's always there with you.

I'm thinking of you y'know. I can't say I know how you must feel. I can only imagine. But you've got to keep your chin up and smile. Think of the good times and preserve her in your memory as this wonderful part of your life she was. Because I don't doubt for a second that that is what she was -- no more and certainly no less.