Addie,
You certainly don't need to double your stress by revisiting rl issues when you come to PA. In my own humble opinion, we come to PA, most of us, because we want to get away from RL crap for awhile and have a little fun. When PA models RL too much then PA is no longer fun. Not only that, it certainly can feel like it doubles the damage in RL, at least temporarily.
That being said, please do what's best for you. You are loved here, and we'd all much rather have you still rp'ing and enjoying it than feeling dragged down.
As for the marriage law, feel free to bounce that to the admins, if you'd like, even if you decide that you need to do that just for the time being. Plot elements can be just plain hard work, and I honestly would prefer you get back to having fun--whatever that is for you.
You're doing a lovely job with the marriage law, really, but its fine to take a break from it if you choose. You know as well as I do that PA folks are an understanding bunch, and they're going to join me in saying we'd rather have you.
Let me know what you need!